To bucket list or not, that is the question

After many tests, and many doctor’s appointments, hospital visits and illnesses relating to my memory and cognitive problems I received several diagnoses: MCI; Dementia; Aphasia; and Early Onset Alzheimer’s.  I thought, well that explains a lot of my behaviors and I was glad to finally know what’s wrong with me!  For some reason, doctors find it hard to diagnose Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia.  According to my peers in my support groups, this is quite normal; especially with early onset Alzheimer’s patients.

As a patient, when you receive a life changing diagnosis such as Early Onset Alzheimer’s, and know there isn’t a cure, you start to look at life differently.  Here’s what went through my head:  How long will it be before I become a vegetable?; What should I do that I’ve haven’t done before my disease takes complete control over me;  I want to spend as much time as possible with my family and friends; I don’t want to be a burden on my husband Bob or the kids; I want Bob to relax, be healthy and happy;  I want to travel more; I would love to have a family vacation and a separate mother/daughter trip; I hope to help our daughter  Jillian buy her first home; I want to see my grandchildren Addison, Jack and Spencer graduate from college or get into their careers of choice; I want to see our daughter Tracy retire; I want to watch our son-in- laws Adam and Kent succeed in their careers; I would also like to see our nephew Scott content and happy; I want to see my brother Tom K in AZ have financial stability and good health;  I want to go to a natural, thermal spring SPA, and I’m sure there are many more things that I thought of, I just can’t remember right now. 

Most people talk about having bucket lists, the only problem with bucket lists are… budgets.  Do you have enough in your budget to check off your list?   I don’t.  My list isn’t long, as you can tell by the last paragraph; however, I’m not sure if my wishes will ever come into fruition; I dream they do.   When you no longer work, it’s harder on your budget to plan trips.

Provision Living’s survey of 2,000 respondents found that 38 percent of people “start their bucket list when they get to a certain age.”  Twelve percent start a list when they are influenced by media and 11 percent were inspired by a trip. Eight percent said that an illness or a death in the family spurred them on. Five percent were inspired by a family member while 4 percent created a bucket list after a change in relationship status and three percent were motivated after being laid off from a job or experiencing a change in income.  One of the most revealing statistics is that just 4 percent of respondents said that they didn’t have a bucket list.

While Americans are rounding out their bucket lists with a variety of personal experiences, travel is certainly one of the most desired and wanderlust runs deep. The top countries on people’s bucket lists were Australia, Italy, Ireland, Japan, the United Kingdom, France, Greece, the Bahamas, Egypt and Germany, according to the survey.

The top 20 U.S. cities Americans said they would like to visit are Honolulu, New York, Las Vegas, Anchorage, San Francisco, Los Angeles, New Orleans, Seattle, Austin, Boston, Denver, Atlanta, Portland, DC, Miami, Chicago, San Diego, Anaheim, Orlando and Albuquerque.

According to the Huffington Post, there are 7 reasons to ditch your bucket list:

  • Bucket lists gives you tunnel vision
  • High expectations will sabotage you
  • Bucket lists make you travel for obligation, not pleasure
  • Bucket lists cause regret
  • You’ll miss out on spontaneous getaways
  • Bucket lists contribute to the one-upping epidemic
  • A bucket list turns you into a tourist

 Benefits of having a bucket list:

  • Forces You to Look at What You Really Want
  • Gets you Excited
  • Creates Focus
  • Motivates You
  • Pushes the Boundaries Your Comfort Zone
  • Makes You Feel Accomplished
  • Makes You More Interesting
  • Keeps You Active
  • Creates a Legacy
  • Allows You to Dream Bigger

So, now that I’ve mentioned my bucket list and discussed

the importance of having and not having one, I would like to discuss why my list wasn’t so long.  When choosing a new subject to blog about, I wanted to write about something positive, something personal and interesting.  Maybe writing about the things I consider to be achievements in my life; my legacy.  The goals I have reached! The bucket list items I already achieved or experienced.

So, how do I evaluate my life?  In many ways.  I evaluate my life by what I have done that makes me proud or happy, goals I have reached, struggles I have conquered and by who I have in my life.  I’m very proud of my accomplishments in life, the goals I have reached in my career and personal life.  I’m also proud of the struggles I have overcome and how I have eliminated dysfunctional relationships.

When I worked, I always set short-term and long-term goals for myself.  I set these goals for my career and my personal life. Through the years I attended many sales training seminars along my path; these seminars usually had time management and goal setting modules.  It was in these training seminars that I learned how important it was to set, evaluate progress and meet my goals. I worked very hard.  I was told once, if you didn’t write out your goals down…they are just dream’s.  Bob and I loved to collect antiques, I had a purse addiction, our teenager, Jillian loved Abercrombie & Finch clothing, and we loved to travel; so, I’m so grateful for learning to reach my goals early in life.  I’m very blessed and fortunate to be able to check off my bucket list as I went through life; I thank God for this today. 

2 thoughts on “To bucket list or not, that is the question

  1. Bucket lists put way less pressure on yourself than new year’s resolutions.
    I learned that the hard way and I am a happier human because of it.
    New year’s resolutions are pointless and cruel merry go rounds of anxiety.
    Let’s get rid of them!
    Let’s share our bucket lists instead!

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  2. All the things I see on your list here involve connection with loved ones, so if you find, now or in the future, there are certain things on the bucket list that the budget won’t strech to, know that you can find that connection some other way. People with yachts don’t make happier memories than people with toy boats 🙂

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